Confession No. 2: Woman to Woman

Growing up, my relationships with my sisters in family and life have been something I needed to cultivate and trust. My first bond was with my mom, I am lucky and grateful for this and trust her without question. She is who I measure all other women in my life.

In school, I was considered awkward, clumsy(the last to be picked on the teams in PE),I remember one classmate, she would kick me in the shins during recess. Another classmate became a blood sister with a finger prick and a promise of trust. Then at nine years at age the second single most important female came into my life. I wished for a baby sister on my last birthday candle wish. I thought is was divine intervention, my mom thought it was a contraception malfunction, I now believe it was both.

Friends came in and out of my life, was there something wrong with me? Why did I not have the type of female friend that I saw in the movies. The answer is quite clear as I look in the rear view mirror, a pattern becomes apparent. When men came into my life, I would become all in, consumed, no time for my existing friendships. It was only when the relationship failed that I would feel the need, the lonely void to reconnect with my friends that more cases than not moved on to someone deserving of their time and trust. I quit on them, not the other way around.

My life now is centered, of course with its obstacles and challenges. I have my mom, my sister and my extended sisters; wishing I had more time to spend with them. My family is my core, my businesses which give me the opportunity to be with my family, to give them the things they need to grow and flourish, to travel. Then there are my friendships that we come together to bond,to share, to laugh, cry, and see a chick flick. Our families get together whenever our busy schedules allow, knowing the value of the years they have shared since kindergarten now going into middle school.

My sister has taught me the importance of the bond of woman to woman. There are some things only another woman can understand and the strength we can give each other. I have always had the gift of this relationship, I just haven't been appreciative and grateful.

My goal is to share this wealth, woman to woman; personally, and in work. Now my goal come full circle with the most precious new woman in my life, my daughter.